Speaking to Authority Figures
So here are Five Tips to Remember when Speaking to Authority Figures:
1) Have a Plan
What are your goals for this encounter? Do you want to get your boss excited about a new idea? Are you trying to survive a speeding ticket? Knowing and preparing to get what you want enables you to be perceived as knowledgeable, confident, and collected. I heard a story once about a woman, driving near a police station, who was pulled over for a traffic violation. When the officer asked, “Do you know why I pulled you over,” her response was “to impress your buddies over there.” The police officer laughed, and the woman was let off without a ticket. I want to emphasize, I am not advocating for snark in the presence of a police officer. That being said, this woman—facing an undesirable situation—had a plan. Her preparedness allowed her to get what she wanted—avoiding a ticket. This same planning (not the same plan!) should be taken into any situation when speaking with authority figures. Your preparation and planning adds credibility to your ideas, proposals, when interviewing, or when you’re standing up for a decision. You are more likely to be appreciated, respected, and ultimately heard.
SHIFTING VISUAL FOCUS
Thanks for joining me this week as we explore visual focus and how it impedes or improves public and interpersonal communication. Let’s dive right in!
Try something for me: The next time you’re out with a friend, family member, someone you know well, stare at a fixed point on a wall/window/doorway/etc. How long does it take your friend to look over at this fixed point? Seconds? Maybe a minute? Visual focus is a powerful tool in communication. When utilized appropriately, it directs and connects an audience to your message. When used incorrectly, it undermines your intention and your product.
RETREATING
RETREATING
Imagine this: A presenter is speaking in front of a group of individuals. She is confident, charismatic, witty, and well-spoken. But something appears off. She subconsciously—or consciously—takes a step or two backward when she feels she is too close to the audience.
The decision makes sense. She does not want to encroach on her audience. Invading personal space can be uncomfortable for the speaker and her audience—especially in small speaking environments like a classroom or a meeting space. A large auditorium, complete with elevated stage, poses the hazardous and humiliating risk of falling into the audience.
WHY DO I NEED A PUBLIC SPEAKING COACH?
It’s a fair question. There are numerous coaches out there for life, business, health, fitness, etc. Why do I need one more? What reasons are there to hire a Public Speaking Coach?
I have an upcoming presentation.
I struggle to share and communicate my ideas with others.
I lack the confidence to stand up in front of others.
I worry that others judge me when I present.
I communicate regularly with colleagues.
I have an upcoming interview.
I am responsible for presenting at meetings.
I am in a position of leadership.
I meet face-to-face with clients.
I am in sales.
I am terrified of public speaking.